I’m wired to be accomplishment focused. I like seeing that things are done. I like having evidence that I’m moving forward. It’s great when I am accomplishing a lot. But when I’m not… lets just say I can get a little grumpy.
We’ve been in our house for almost two and a half years. Here’s my list of things I planned to accomplish in the first year.
- Put in a pool
- Finish the basement
- Remodel the kitchen
- Plant fruit and nut trees
- Have a kick butt garden
- Build a chicken coop
- Put a barn on our property
Here’s the relatively small amount of projects I have actually done in 2 and a half years
- Got goats (twice). The first heard all died, but that’s another story for another day.
- After hacking our way through our jungle with a machete for a year we bought a tractor and a bush hog. It’s spent a good amount of time broken, but we’re getting the hang of it.
- After a year of trying to chop down overgrown woods with a chainsaw and a bush hog, we finally hired someone to come out and clear the land.
- I painted most of the house when we first moved in.
- A bathroom remodel that was caused because of water damage. Thank you to the three year old!
- We built a fire pit. Not the nicest, but still s’mores worthy.
Not much on that long list of want to’s has actually been accomplished.
About a month ago I was actually feeling kind of grumpy about my long list of projects. And then I ended up on Facebook looking for a picture and I realized, we’ve chosen experience over accomplishment the last 2 years.
Growing up in the Northwest everything’s far away. You can drive 8 hours and still be in your same state! Moving to the South, everything is close. We’ve had great adventures. We’ve taken the kids to Washington DC, Savannah Ga, Tybee Island Ga, Panama City Florida, Yellowstone National Park, California, the Blue Ridge Mountains, and many other quick day trips. Stephen and I have been on 4 trips by ourselves. I’ve been to San Francisco and New York for business. We’ve really experienced a lot in the last 2 years. And I’ve loved it.
It made me realize how much my soul requires balance between accomplishment and experience. I used to think that I had to accomplish in order to experience. I.E. When my business gets to this size I’ll go… Or, “If I clean the whole house this weekend, then I’ll go to the movies with friends. Or “I need to earn $5000 to build the perfect outdoor space so that they family can spend the weekends roasting marshmallows over the fire pit.
I’m learning that there is danger in placing qualifications on our ability to experience life. The more experiences I give myself, the more happy I am. Which makes me more creative and motivated. Which gives me the fuel to accomplish.
Maybe it’s not an “either/or.” Maybe we genuinely require both experience and accomplishment. I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share on our FB page.